American Association of Christian Counselors
American Association of Christian Counselors

Verbal Punches

Tim Clinton, Ed.D.   “Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles!”—James 3:5   “Cold words freeze people, and hot words scorch them, and bitter words make them bitter, and wrathful words make them wrathful. Kind words also produce their image on men's souls; and a beautiful image it is. They smooth, and quiet, and comfort the hearer.”— Blaise Pascal     We’ve all seen the devasta...

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Family Healing through Forgiveness

Systemic Family Disease Families are hidden victims of substance use suffered by a family member. The family is trapped in family survival behavioral and emotional reactions that resemble a systemic family disease, the impact substance use disorder has on the family system. A systemic family disease affects all members of a family and becomes the central organizing principle of the […]

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Spirituality From a Developmental Perspective: Moving from Self to Others

  When I read the Bible I am struck with the understanding that nothing happens outside of relationship. At the core of our faith is our relationship with God. When we consider the world in which we live, it is all about the relationships we have with our fellow humans. Everything centers around how one […]

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The Power of Encouragement

 Eric Scalise, Ph.D.   What is encouragement, and why is it so essential for maintaining healthy marriages and families? Encouragement represents positive influence, to literally give courage to someone—not waiting until it’s deserved or asked for, but taking initiative when things are difficult and uncertain. There are many synonyms one could use: to give support, […]

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Do You Want To Be Healed?

Tim Clinton, Ed.D.     38 years in a bed.  Next to a pool.  Sounds relaxing doesn’t it?  But as we read on, the story says the man was alone and horribly crippled.  Probably twisted feet, pencil thin legs and atrophied muscles barely covered by a thin blanket.  Why?  Because this was the pool of Bethesda near the Sheep Gate in Jerusalem.  There was something miraculous about this pool.  Periodically the water stirred, and the first one into it was instantly healed. ...

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The Power of Emotion

When I attended children’s church as a child we were asked to memorize a verse and recite it each week.  Needless to say, I often found myself in the predicament of not having memorized my verse for the week so like many other kids. I frequently relied on what is known as the shortest verse […]

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Childish or Childlike?

Eric Scalise, Ph.D.   All of us have probably observed childish behavior… not only in young children, which is almost expected, but also in some adults, which is unfortunate and often produces a “roll your eyes” response. In many ways, we come into this world helpless, needy, and self-absorbed. Children must be taught, even trained […]

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From Disappointment to Reappointment

 Tim Clinton, Ed.D.   “He said to him a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.” — John 21:16 ESV   “The lows are disappointing but that makes the high much sweeter, that’s what drives me.”— Tim Tebow     Sometimes the crystal bowl is not just broken; it is shattered, completely ruined, and beyond repair. Barring a miracle, our frantic ...

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Because Those Who Are Suffering Need Us To Notice

Rachel’s face was weary, her distracted glance seemed lost somewhere in the distance. She spoke of her life in fragments and whispers.  Her story was both tragic and impossible.  My heart wept for the child who endured such abuse, such profound neglect and who woke up years later with a lifetime of losses and a […]

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Now What? Colleges, Careers, and Life Choices

  My wife and I remember the day quite well. Our identical twin sons came home from school one afternoon—only a couple of months before their high school graduation—and announced that they had decided to enter the United States Marine Corps. The terrorist attacks of 9-11 were still fresh in our nation’s psyche and military […]

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